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.BECAUSE SHE HAS NOTHING TO THINK ABOUT.You haven't told her anything about yourself.She still has no idea if she should be interested in you or not.She knows you don't monopolize the conversation and you're a good listener.And she likes that.But that's not enough to spark any kind of emotion in her.Now imagine you'd spent 60 to 70 percent of the date listening to her (really listening and asking questions), and about 30 to 40 percent of the time telling her about yourself.Specifically, telling her about yourself in a way that makes the two of you seem very similar.This time when she goes home, sits down, grabs something to drink, and starts reminiscing about the date (and you), she's going to have something substantial to think about.She's going to think what a wonderful conversationalist you are.You didn't monopolize the conversation.You didn't bore her with details of your job, your childhood, or the health of your colon.And because you spent a substantial amount of time pointing out how similar the two of you are, she's going to think that you are very SPECIAL.(After all, you're just like her.You must be.)People always like others who are similar to themselves.By being similar to me, you essentially validate my perceptions of the world.I will see you as clever, intelligent, charming, and likeable.because you're like me.(It's true that opposites do SOMETIMES attract.But only under certain situations.On the other hand, similars ALMOST ALWAYS attract.You should always go for the similarity angle during the first part of a relationship.You'll can reveal to her your "unique" qualities later.)And don't worry or feel cheated because you don't get to talk about the things you want to talk about.If you play your cards right during the first few conversations or dates, you'll have plenty of time later on to bore her with all your "interesting" stories.The first few conversations (dates) are critical and you have to "play" them right.That means listening for free info, asking interested questions, and making "me too" statements.It's a simple 1, 2, 3.Chapter IXRICO SUAVE - PART IICOPYRIGHT © 2OOO, 3 A.M.PUBLISHING ALL RIGHTS RESERVEDKey Points:Making Her Salivate For YouYour Magic WandThe following articles were submitted to Dating Insider by SoSuave.com's, Allen Thompson - DJNewslet@aol.comMAKING HER SALIVATE FOR YOUIvan Pavlov was a physiologist who stumbled upon one of the most important principles in all of psychology.Pavlov discovered that he could teach dogs to salivate at the sound of a tone if he repeatedly paired the tone with the presentation of food.The dogs learned that the tone was a good predictor for food (which they liked and which naturally elicited a salivary response).Thus, by repeatedly pairing the tone and the food, the dogs learned to salivate to the sound of the tone.regardless of whether or not food was present.This is known as classical conditioning and it's quite an omnipresent phenomenon which influences most every aspect of our lives.especially our love lives.You see, EMOTIONS are particularly susceptible to classical conditioning.Emotions are very often "elicited" by certain circumstances as a result of past learning experiences (that is, previous pairings or associations).An obvious example is the emotion of fear.People often learn to fear things because of previous unpleasant associations.For example, a person may come to fear dentists (or perhaps the sound of a drill) because of past painful dental procedures.A woman who has been attacked may develop a fear of strangers or a fear of men.Or maybe it's the garage or neighborhood in which she was attacked that come to elicit feelings of fear and anxiety.It's a simple pairing of a particular situation (or person) with an emotion which causes similar situations (or persons) to elicit similar emotions in the future.On the positive side, think about an old girlfriend of yours that you adored.(Everybody has at least one that they blew it with.) You were crazy about this girl and would have done anything for her.As a result you may have done a few things you didn't really care too much for.Maybe she was really into Italian food but you weren't.Frequently you wound up in Italian restaurants in order to keep her happy.As a result of the pairing of Italian food with this adorable lady, you NOW love Italian food.Or maybe it's a particular Italian restaurant that you two frequented that you NOW love.Perhaps she used to love hiking so now you do.Or she was crazy about cats and now you have several.Or maybe it was a particular movie that the two of you saw together that still makes you feel queasy.Or a particular song (your song) that brings back a flood of vivid memories and intense emotions.Whatever.Your feelings for her were transferred to various other objects, situations, or people as a result of being paired with her.It's really fascinating to observe this pairing of situations and emotions.Try to pay attention to the "classical conditioning" happening around you as you go about your daily routine.It occurs ALL THE TIME.And it's really quite interesting [ Pobierz całość w formacie PDF ]